The Frame Must be Solid as an Amish Built Barn

A while back a reader emailed me and a few other people about a situation he was dealing with. He’d gone from beta to alpha, but made some mistakes after a break-up and feared he’d ended up being an omega in his ex’s eyes.  He wasn’t focused on winning her back, just regaining the upper hand when dealing with her and preventing future omega dalliances.  This gentleman, who has also rediscovered his faith, further wanted to move solidly into the alpha category. He’d abandoned his status when he returned to the church and mistakenly decided that being a ‘nice’ guy was the route he needed to take.

When I responded, I mentioned the usual reference points: Dave in Hawaii and Athol Kay. I offered some advice for dealing with his ex. In the email, I didn’t really discuss the foundation, though. Since the foundation is important for all men – single or in relationships – and since Talley posted a nice bit on body language, I decided to publish those ideas here rather than simply emailing them to the reader.

It’s all in the frame.

Since the goal is not to pick up lots of women, but to successfully interact with the ex as well as with a future wife, I’m going to slightly alter the definition for purposes of this post. I also contend that frame matters in job interviews and general life, so it need not be restricted solely to the realm of pick-ups:

Frame is important in life, because it communicates a man’s mindset as well as the underlying psychology behind his words and actions.

Everything good about you must spring forth from within. It must be obvious from the way you carry yourself; your words only reinforce that goodness, they do not create it. As Talleyrand wrote:

Men project their self-confidence through their body language.

Body language communication is far older than verbal communication, evolutionarily. . .

We constantly communicate to others with our body language and subtly influence their opinions of us.

Your frame must be solid, unshakable. Your body language must convey that. Whether you seek a fling or a wife, you must display value to her and the way you display that value is to be solid, confident, and masculine and convey that with your body language. The benefits will extend beyond your love life.

After having the proper mental state, your body language is the most important thing, not just in game, in all your interactions with other people.