The Antidote
The reason that many men complain about the frequency of sex in an LTR is that it becomes easy to not have sex. You heard me. She’s going to be there later in the day; she’s going to be there tomorrow. She’s tired or her allergies are crushing her. Both of you are operating on 4 hours sleep. Just put it off until tomorrow. Haste makes waste, right?
Fuck no. Are you really thinking such nonsense?
First off, as a man, sleep is unimportant. I don’t care what time you went to bed last night. I don’t care what time you have to get up tomorrow. You’ve got at least 30-45 minutes you can spare. So if you’re whining about being tired and whining about being horny, it’s time to put on your big boy pants. And then immediately take them off.
But what about her? You respect her, you care about her opinions, you don’t want to put her out, do you?
Look, man, you’re not buying a house. You’re talking about getting a little action. In such situations, her words are meaningless. In such situations, she doesn’t even know what her own opinions actually are. She’s responding from a primal level. Maslow is useful, but his guidance isn’t rigid. Overcome that primal response with primal initiation; counteract every evasion and defensive move with silent groping. She’ll be purring and glistening sooner than you can say, “Sorry, did you say something about being tired.”
Even if you do verbalize that exact question, and I don’t know why you would, her response will be, “Don’t stop.” Your infallible divining rod will be dictating the action by that point. She will be powerless until the eruption. Then she can get up and go back to being tired and needing to clean the kitchen a bit before bed.
Penelope is a big Jason Statham fan. (I’ll try to care about this fact the moment she starts caring about the various Hollywood and wannabe-Hollywood trollops I drool over.) As such, I’ve seen Crank, the Transporter, and Death Race numerous times. Snatch too, but it doesn’t fit with that list and I’m the one who bought it on DVD. Though 3 of these 4 movies are decidedly lowbrow, they entertain and provide a solid framework of what women actually want. Check out this scene from Crank:
She doesn’t get really mad until he stops. Your woman won’t either. Just don’t make the mistake of listening to the words that are coming out of her mouth.
Sage advice, my friend.
Love it.
yeah. listening most of the time to what women say they want is the worst choice. the same way women “say they want nice guys”…and bang guys fresh out of prison in the bathroom.
everytime i find myself listening to what a women says she wants, i say silently, “yeah, and they claim they want roses and kisses and unicorn rides provided by a nice guy too”….and i remember to do what is counterintuitive
Pretty crappy advice in today’s legal climate, at least if you have to push through so much resistance in such a public place as the guy in that video.
Obviously, it turns out she was an exhibitionist, and the scene is very “hot” once they get down to it. But just imagine the after coital rationalizations the law would allow her to have his ass tossed in jail..
Obviously I’m not suggesting you need to bend your woman over every mailbox you encounter in the city, but sometimes your wife/girlfriend’s lips say no when her mind really wants to say yes. Your job as a man is to get her lips and mind aligned. The video is just an extreme example of breaking down the barriers. (Since I’m guessing you aren’t familiar with the movie, I’ll tell you the dude is going to die if he doesn’t get his heart rate up. That’s not a crazy love scene, just a crazy scene from a bad movie.) – Ulysses