A Classic Girl
A few weeks back, I commented on Edmund Burke’s philosophy of the ideal gentleman. In that essay, Burke was brilliant and his advice was timeless. He didn’t stop with the gentleman, though, and I won’t either. Long term relationship and marriage game is only to be deployed on a woman worthy of a long term relationship or marriage.
Don’t look to modern drivel, besides me, in hopes of finding the qualities such a worthwhile woman possesses. Rather, look to the classics, like Burke. For example, In The Character of – (Mrs. Edmund Burke) Burke said:
She is handsome; but it is a Beauty not arising from features, from Complexion and Shape. She has all these in high degree; but whoever looks at her never perceives them, nor makes them the Topic of his Praise. ‘Tis all the sweetness of Temper, Benevolence, Innocence, and Sensibility which a face can express, that forms her beauty.
She has a face that raises your attention at first sight; it grows on you every moment, and you wonder it did no more than raise your Attention at first. . .
She has a Delicacy that does not Exclude firmness.
She has all the softness that does not imply weakness.
In other words, she’s not one of the majority of modern women you’ve met. Sure, sure, there are bevies of hotties everywhere you tread. Science, medicine, fashion, and breeding have converged to produce a cornucopia of girls with delicate features, nice asses, and the hip to breast ratio that we all love. What’s missing is the attitude that ties it all together. Innocence: Yeah, there’s an innocent riding the main float of the parade of cocks all too many participate in.
Temper: We don’t scorn bitches. Hell, we give them TV shows and celebrate their wild mood swings. Benevolence: When was the last time you described a bitch, or biatch if you will, as benevolent. More likely you were focused on her self-absorption. Sensibility: Doesn’t require further discussion.
An attention raising face that only grows more lovely: We’ve all encountered the honey who went down a notch after opening her mouth. We’ve also known the h0ney who moved in the opposite direction. Personality does matter.
Delicacy: We deride delicacy.
Softness that doesn’t imply weakness: Even ignoring the faults with her politics, and those faults are legion, soft but not weak Sarah Palin is not held as an example for modern women. Palin does have a hot softness that does not imply weakness nor does she seem to run roughshod over Mr. Palin. Rather, she allows her softness to dictate that she listen to him. That softness obviously doesn’t preclude her various endeavors. (To be fair, I’m sure Todd doesn’t mind the extra folding money and free time those endeavors allow.) As such, she really shouldn’t be quite as hated as she is as a person. As a prairie populist big government isn’t the answer, except when it is, self-aggrandizer, she deserves the criticism she receives. As the librarian-looking in-shape hot 46 year old mother, she’s alright.
Burke continues:
To describe her body, describes her mind; one is the Transcript of the other. . .
She discovers the right from the wrong in things not by reasoning, but Sagacity.
Most women, and many good ones, have a Closeness and something Selfish in their Disposition: –She has a true generosity of Temper. The most extravagant cannot be more willing to give; the most Covetous not more cautious to whom they give. . .
She has such virtues as make us value the truely great of our own Sex. She has all the winning Graces that make us love even the faults we see in the weak and Beautiful of hers.
Ahh, the female form is lovely. Soft and delicate as an ellipse. The ideal female mind, the same. The two entwine in feminine perfection.
Sagacity was once a hallmark of femininity. Have you ever heard the phrase “woman’s intuition?” When was the last time you heard that?
The combination of extravagance and generosity in love is of particular importance. To riff on an old Kids in the Hall sketch, one must find a woman who gives the pussy freely to a very select audience of one. Such giving cannot be lacking in specificity.
As to virtue, it’s quickly becoming a lost art. Our fathers knew virtuous women, though their numbers were shrinking even in that idyllic ascendance of the Baby Boomers. A virtuous woman does not invite distrust and scorn. A virtuous woman provides the foundation for a man to become a man in full.
In closing, Burke said:
Who can see and know such a Creature and not love to distraction?
Who can know her, and himself, and entertain much hope?
These final sentences tempt one to admonish Burke as wholly incorrect, but such a reading is errant. Such a reading prepares a man to accept the strumpets he regularly encounters as worthy of his undivided attention.
Regardless of the duration that you seek for relationships, whether for the weekend or for the years, love must be the goal. If she does not move you to distraction, then why are you still distracted with her? If she does not weaken your defenses almost to the point of full-blown betadom, then why are you wasting time?
Worthwhile love requires effort. Nothing in life that can be attained through complacency is worth even that feeble an effort. Do not give in to complacency. Seek out and fight for a classic girl.
Such a classic girl…
Gives her man great ideas.
Hears you tell your friends,
Hey man, listen to my great idea!
It’s true I am a villain
When you fall ill,
that’s probably becauseMen never can be.
Not like a girl.
A classic girl…
Such a classic girl…They may say, Those were the days…,
But in a way,
You know for us these are the days.
Yes, for us these are the days,And you know you’re my girl!
Such a classic girl…
Such a classic girl…Yeah for us these are the days…
Thank you for pointing that essay out.
Contrasted out against the current crop of media-celebrated attention whorish clowns (for they are truly clowns, physically and mentally), Burke’s sage celebration of femininity is reaffirming.
Too often it seems the mansphere throws in the towel when it comes to womanhood. We concentrate on the obnoxious Hollywood and New York archetype. There are good women out there if we bother to get off our asses and look. Complaining is so much easier and funner than trying to prove our own complaints wrong in practice.
Burke also wrote an essay on the sublime and the beautiful which had a part about how to be feminine was to be weak, mince, and prone to lisping,which provoked a wonderful response from Wollstonecraft. You might want to look at it.
Reading those essays and their responses is much akin to reading blogs and watching people fight with each other while trying to sound reasonable and intelligent.
Very, very good post.
Delicacy: We deride delicacy.
I don’t think we deride delicacy as much as we deride femininity. Our modern society (under the influence of Feminism) has reduced femininity to an exaggerated female sexuality, a woman’s worth is measured by her sexual attractiveness.
As you have rightly commented, what also matters is character and personality. You only need to spend a little time around women to realise that so many of the hotties lack any charm, discretion grace or intelligence. And yet, that is what endures as the flesh corrupts.
In my experience, such women, whilst rare do exist and their effect on their surroundings is palpable. Men smarten up around them, they are deferred to and they seem to elicit courteous behaviour naturally, they almost assume a quasi regal bearing. Perhaps it’s because these qualities are so rare in women these days.